In our society, domestic chores are often seen as simple tasks. However, the challenge with simple tasks is that when they accumulate, they can become overwhelming. Many families, especially in their early years, still assign these daily responsibilities to women. You often hear husbands say, “She is the owner of the house; she knows where everything is.” But when a woman has to juggle these so-called simple tasks with her career, how does she manage?
Before my husband and I got married, we both agreed not to have a maid. At the time, I was already skilled in fashion design, believing that since I had no boss to report to, I would be able to balance my home and business with ease. However, without proper planning, I was unknowingly setting myself up for failure. When pregnancy hormones kicked in, I found it difficult to concentrate on something as basic as cutting fabric. Being in a place without close or distant family support, I had to rethink my work-life balance after having my first child. That was when I ventured into the frozen foods business, hoping it would be less demanding than my previous trade.
Initially, I managed home and business efficiently, but I didn’t realize the stress building up until I physically broke down and had to be hospitalized. When power supply issues arose, things spiraled further—I couldn’t make sales, my products were going bad, and I started losing my personal upkeep money trying to sustain the business. With no family to rely on and my husband working late while preparing office presentations at home, I found myself alone with my thoughts, struggling to keep everything together.
Balancing career and motherhood requires more than just sheer determination; it demands intentional planning, support, and flexibility. Women are often conditioned to believe they must handle everything alone, but this mindset only leads to exhaustion and burnout. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness; it is an act of wisdom.
For a woman to successfully balance her home and career, she needs help. While faith teaches us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us, even motherhood alone—without a career—requires seeking support when necessary. Many of us hesitate to trust external help, which is why, like me, some women choose not to bring strangers into their homes. In such cases, transitioning to a passive income career path may be the best solution. Fortunately, we now live in a digital world where vast opportunities and information are just a click away.
For those who prefer the traditional approach, patience is key. While waiting, invest in knowledge, seek wisdom, plan and re-plan, strategize and equip yourself spiritually. Most importantly, surround yourself with a community of mothers who can provide encouragement, advice, and support. The journey of balancing career and home is not meant to be walked alone.
At the end of the day, every mother’s journey is different. What works for one woman may not work for another. The key is to find a system that allows you to flourish both as a professional and as a mother. Whether it’s delegating tasks, outsourcing when necessary, or embracing new career paths that offer flexibility, the goal is to create a sustainable balance that nurtures both your family and your aspirations.
Motherhood is a continuous learning experience, and every phase comes with its own lessons. As women, we must remind ourselves that we are more than the sum of our responsibilities. We are individuals with dreams, ambitions, and a right to fulfillment beyond our household duties. A well-balanced woman is a thriving woman, and a thriving woman is a gift to herself, her family, and her community.
My name is Omolola Oyedele (@mediagirlie.lola on socials)—a mother, a wife, a woman, and your biggest cheerleader on this journey. Motherhood isn’t always easy, but you’re never alone. I’ll be here, rooting for you always. Until next time, mama!
Category: Motherhood, Parenting, Finding You in Marriage
QUIZ TIME - What Surprised You Most Since Becoming a New Mom?
- What aspect of motherhood did you find most surprising?
- Which unexpected change in your lifestyle did you experience?
- Which part of your daily routine changed the most after becoming a mom?
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