Prioritizing “Me time” as a mother of toddlers is something I refuse to compromise on, yet it never seems to be enough. At this stage of my life, I have no interest in entertaining visitors who would be a burden or judge my family’s reality—whether it’s my unkempt appearance, the messy environment, or my children being their loud, carefree selves. The truth is, I simply do not have the energy to accommodate anyone else’s expectations right now, and that’s okay.
Motherhood shifts your priorities in ways you never truly anticipate. Unlike the days of being single or without a corporate job, when I might have spent my free time hanging out with friends, I now crave peace more than anything. Not necessarily sleep, just a moment to be still, to exist without demands, and to reclaim a sense of self that often gets buried under responsibilities.
I may not speak for all mothers, but I know many who feel the same way. In a world that constantly expects women to be available, to nurture, to host, and to socialize, claiming personal space can feel like a rebellious act. But I have come to accept that I cannot pour from an empty cup. My peace is just as important as the care I give to my children. If, during this rare free time, I hear a knock on my door and it isn’t my husband or a close relative, I simply won’t answer. The last thing I want to do in that moment is engage in conversation or entertain uninvited guests who do not understand the sacredness of my alone time.
This isn’t to diminish women without children, but the reality is, I already answer to my household—to my children who need me at all hours, to my partner, to the endless cycle of domestic responsibilities. I can’t be answering to the outside world too. There is an unspoken expectation that women, especially mothers, should always be accessible. But I am learning to set boundaries, to embrace the fact that prioritizing myself is not selfish, but necessary.
Motherhood is beautiful, but it is also overwhelming. “Me time” is not a luxury; it is survival. It is a reminder that beyond the mother, there is still a woman who needs care, quiet, and moments of solitude to recharge. And I will continue to protect that time fiercely, no matter how little of it I get. So, you too should learn to prioritize your “Me Time” for the sake of your mental health.
My name is Omolola Oyedele (@mediagirlie.lola on socials)—a mother, a wife, a woman, and your biggest cheerleader on this journey. Motherhood isn’t always easy, but you’re never alone. I’ll be here, rooting for you always. Until next time, mama!
Category: Motherhood, Parenting, Finding You in Marriage
QUIZ TIME - Prioritizing Your "Me Time"?
- Do you feel guilty when you take time for yourself, even for a short while?
- What’s the biggest challenge you face in making time for yourself?
- If you could give one piece of advice to a new mom about self-care, what would it be?
Take time figuring out the answers and when you do figure them out, send them RIGHT HERE because we would love to be there for you! If you have more questions, feel free to send them our way! This will always be a No judgement zone for you Mama.
