No matter how much you try to prepare, transitioning into motherhood is never fully pre-planned. Many women, especially those without support, find themselves feeling lost in the process. It takes an understanding and supportive partner to help them reconnect with who they were before becoming mothers.
Motherhood begins the moment you realize you’re pregnant. And if you experience difficult pregnancy symptoms, the journey can be both emotionally and physically overwhelming.
During my first pregnancy, I battled persistent headaches that refused to go away. Simple daily tasks became exhausting, which was frustrating because I’ve never been one to sit idle. By the first trimester, I had no choice but to slow down. Even something as routine as monthly shopping became a challenge—I needed a friend to accompany me. Yet, even with help, I struggled to stand upright. I remember desperately wanting to sit, only to be refused a seat. That moment stayed with me, shifting the way I interacted with people from then on.
Then came the forgetfulness. I would confidently argue with my husband about conversations I was certain we had, only for him to insist otherwise. Later, as I replayed events in my mind, I realized I had been mistaken. This wasn’t me. I barely recognized myself.
But I wasn’t lying—I was simply navigating the whirlwind of changes that come with motherhood. And like many women before me, I had to learn that becoming a mother also means rediscovering myself along the way.
Many mothers regret losing themselves in the process of raising their children. The weight of motherhood often takes a toll on emotional well-being. Some may say, “It’s easier said than done,” and that is absolutely true.
For someone like me, I’m still on the journey of finding myself. Before marriage, I wasn’t too invested in fashion. When I got married, I tried to put in more effort, but once pregnancy came, it became even harder. Now, my focus is more on staying healthy and maintaining an orderly environment—yet, even that is a work in progress.
Motherhood teaches you, informs you, and equips you to become better. Each experience prepares you for the road ahead, helping you understand how to manage and plan your journey—not perfectly, but intentionally.
As I navigate this ever-evolving path, I realize that motherhood is not just about raising children—it’s also about raising myself. I’ve learned to extend grace to myself, embracing the imperfections and the moments of uncertainty. I am not just a mother; I am a woman still discovering her own identity, passions, and purpose beyond the title of “mom.”
Every stage of motherhood brings new challenges and lessons. Some days, I feel accomplished, and on others, I wonder if I’m doing enough. But I remind myself that I am growing alongside my child. The journey may not be easy, but it is one of the most profound and transformative experiences of my life.
To every mother who feels lost, know that you are not alone. We are all walking this path in different ways, learning, evolving, and reclaiming parts of ourselves we thought were lost. Motherhood is not about perfection; it’s about perseverance, love, and embracing the journey with an open heart.
My name is Omolola Oyedele (@mediagirlie.lola on socials)—a mother, a wife, a woman, and your biggest cheerleader on this journey. Motherhood isn’t always easy, but you’re never alone. I’ll be here, rooting for you always. Until next time, mama!
Category: Motherhood, Parenting, Finding You in Marriage
QUIZ TIME - What Surprised You Most Since Becoming a New Mom?
- What aspect of motherhood did you find most surprising?
- Which unexpected change in your lifestyle did you experience?
- Which part of your daily routine changed the most after becoming a mom?
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